Getting verbal feedback from my teammates was really
helpful. They shared some things that I consider to be blind spots. The very
things I thought I was doing wrong they did not seem to have a problem with. An
example was I think that I can be a lot more vocal with encouragement and
praise. They shared that the felt I was good at being one of the first people to
give positive feedback which was helpful for me.
I liked being able to give verbal feedback because it is
more valuable in my eyes then the actual assessment. I did not type any
comments into the space provided on the assessments so I am glad that we could
do it in person. Only thing is I felt like we did not have a lot of time to
discuss. I did not have any real negative thoughts as the challenge was going
on about anyone but I knew we would share with each other at some point how it
was working with one another. So it was good to get some thoughts out that I
did not even realize that I had.
It is important to know how others view you and your
behavior while in turn showing that same courtesy to others. Pride can easily
get in the way and blind us of our true character. On the other end we can also
be held back by how we view ourselves and the “role” we think we fit into. Sharing
and giving provides a way to better gauge where you are to others and where you
are with yourself by your own standards.
Candice, you really share some deep insights into the value of providing honest feedback to others through meaningful dialogue. I love your statement: "Pride can easily get in the way and blind us of our true character." This is something that too many of us fall victim to when assessing our work in groups or contributions to teams. In the same breath, I appreciate your identification of over-analyzation or self-restraint as the problem in other circumstances; as these often hold us back from making meaningful contributions to teams.
ReplyDeleteContinue to share feedback with your peers. As you practice this skill it will become easier and more genuine, and you will find yourself providing feedback to others on a near constant basis.
Although you felt as though you did not have enough time to provide adequate in-person feedback at the last meeting (sorry!), I hope that you've pursued that conversation with your team outside the context of our scheduled meetings.